Happiness Needs to be Earned

In a recent survey, people were asked that if they could magically be made happy every single day, for no reason at all – would they go for it? Surprisingly, many said no. Why would that be? Isn’t happiness the ultimate goal? It turns out, people need to feel as though they’ve earned their happiness. […]

My Struggle to Relax

For years, I have been tense. I am not a relaxed person, so even a simple thing like typing on the keyboard puts me into a state of stress. The extent of my condition became very clear to me 3 months ago when I began to study and practice mindfulness. I was suddenly aware of […]

Your Reality Will Determine Your Success

Two people will enter the office today – each with the exact same amount of time available. Each with the same information at their disposal. Both eager to get the job done. One will accomplish a lot. The other will not. Why? Is one smarter than the other? No. They both have the same IQ. […]

60 Years and What Have I Got to Show for it?

I stared out the window wondering what the future holds. This year, I turn 60. It’s a milestone that begs the question “What have I done with my life?” Much of the past is a blur as I struggle to recount accomplishments. Many of us who reach this age can feel as though we haven’t […]

Are You a People Pleaser?

We often put the desires, priorities and agendas of other people before our own. Many of us are “people pleasers” who live our lives for others, leaving no time for ourselves. I was one of such people. Since I wanted to see the people I like, succeed – I would do many things for them, […]

Are you Broke or Poor?

Many people will be starting this New Year flat broke. Some will consider themselves poor. As someone who has been unemployed and broke numerous times, I have come to learn that there is a big difference between having no money and being poor. There are people with money who are poor. And there are people […]

The New Year Will Be Your Year. Here is Why.

For many of us, young people in particular, there is pressure to do what society, parents or peers tell us to do – go to university, become a doctor, or work for the government. But if these options are not in our heart, we must resist the pressure from outside, look within and carve out […]

Hack Your Brain for the Ultimate Life

There is increasing proof that the mind is more powerful than we realize. We can think our way to financial success, rewarding relationships, and even good health. Medical researchers now say that in many cases, a placebo – a pill with nothing in it, has greater benefit than actual drugs. If told that the placebo […]

Be the One to Make the Move

I spoke this week with a friend who told me they won’t be reaching out to certain people this holiday season. I asked why. The response: “Because I have not heard from these people in a long time. Why should I have to be the one to reach out?” The games people play. There seems […]